How to
Stimulate the "G-spot"
Once considered the ultimate way to orgasm, there is so much MORE to the mysterious and elusive "G-spot".
Right inside the vagina, on the anterior (front) wall, there exists a zone of tissue that elicits a pleasurable, even orgasmic, sensation with stimulated. This enigmatic zone is best known as the "G-spot". Finding this "spot" is reported by around 63% of the female population. This can be described as a majority, but also means near 40% of vagina owners do not report finding their own G-spot. This exemplifies the ongoing debate of the existence of any anatomical structure that can be labeled as the "G-spot". If there was, like the clitoris, wouldn't everyone would have no problem locating and stimulating this happy place? ​​​​
​The G-spot has experienced a lot of attention over recent decades despite being aware of its existence for much longer. It is named after the German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg since he was the first to describe the area's pleasure potential in the 1950's. The G-spot, G-area really, is an area of erectile tissue and nerves, including the urethral sponge and the clitoral nerve network. So, it can be said the that G-spot stimulation is actually stimulating the clitoris, but from the other direction.​​​​
While the G-spot is not really a specific structure (or even "spot") we can point at, there is something there that gives much of the population pleasure. This real, lived experience cannot be denied and seeking pleasure from this wily erogenous zone is worth pursuing wholeheartedly. While you may go on to have no luck in deriving pleasure or orgasm in your "G-zone" quest, at least you can have best chance with the recommendations below. At the very least, here is what we tell those asking us for advice: Think of G-spot play like sailing, it isn't as much about the destination as it is about the journey. If you ARE graced with reaching the destination, enthusiasts report deeper and more explosive orgasms than clitoral play alone.​​​​​
Let's Begin!
Ernst Grafenberg
Set the mood - If you have previously had troubles with G-area play, or have not tried before, be sure to set the right mood. By that we mean a comfortable environment and plenty of time. This encourages relaxation, lowers pressure and stress, and allows you to be as receptive to pleasure as possible. This could mean having a solo masturbation plus G-area experimentation session or two. Prep with whatever brings you comfort and minimizes distractions. Remember, if you want to reach any destination, the journey must be as enjoyable as possible. ​​​​​​
Arousal - It helps to be as aroused as possible. Arousal leads to increased blood flow to the genitalia, increasing size and sensitivity of the clitoris, labia, and associated tissue. This also means the G-spot tissue becomes more prominent and easier to feel and find. Lastly, arousal simply makes stimulating the G-spot more pleasurable. ​​​​
​Finding and stimulating - To find the G-spot, it is easiest to describe the use of fingers. Anatomically, this area is generally described as being about 2 or 3 inches inside the front facing wall of the vagina. The exact depth varies from person to person and some exploration will be needed. The G-spot responds to direct, firm pressure and many first time explorers report a feeling similar to needing to pee. This is because the G-spot related tissues and nerves surround the urethra leading to experiencing some compression during stimulating. Insert one or two fingers into the vaginal canal, curl them towards the front of the body and move them in a "come hither" motion. This is is the basic massage technique for stimulating the G-spot and each person's preference of location, firmness, and speed will vary. When sufficiently aroused the G-spot often feels like a subtly textured area of tissue. The true challenge is "finding" what movement, pressure, and areas that respond best for each individual. Exploration is key.​
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"Come hither" motion
Now with a toy! - After experimenting with fingers and hopefully finding some pleasurable success, there lots of toys out there for the G-spot. Unfortunately, not all are created equal and many use the G-spot as a marketing angle. A G-spot toy should be curved, firm, and smooth. Many "G-spot" labeled toys are simply curved but lack the firmness to really stimulate the area. A toy is most helpful for solo G-spot play, making accessing this pleasure zone far easier ergonomically.
First, it might be a good idea to have some lubricant handy in case you need a little extra. Insert the toy with the curve towards the front of the body. Press with mild pressure to start with. Experiment with moving the tip of the toy back and forth (in/out motion) or rock it up and down. Apply more or less pressure as you do so to find that most pleasurable movements.
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G play and explosive wet endings
​Whether you are using fingers or toys, remember to being patient. Enjoy experimenting and add other play (especially clitoral) to optimize your pleasure equation. The mix of extra play to G-spot play varies with each person.
Also, we would should mention that some (fewer than half) G-spot owners find that enough stimulation leads to an expulsion of a small amount of thicker, milkier fluid. This is referred to as "female ejaculate" and is generated primarily by the Skene's Glands and other lubricating tissue/glands. This is NOT the significant fluid expulsion shown in adult entertainment called "squirting". These are two distinct experiences, squirting a more voluntary activity than ejaculation. However, both represent great pleasure, should be embraced, and add another delightful dimension to G-play! ​​​​​​​
​TAP/CLICK HERE to learn more about vaginal anatomy.​​​​
So, what DO we know about the G-spot and driving pleasure from it?