Listening Lovers December 2025

Kinks & Fetishes

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What’s the most talked-about kink and fetish this month?

 What is katoptronophilia?

Have you ever stayed at a hotel or Airbnb and observed a room with a large mirror wall or even a mirrored ceiling? Mirrors are typically installed with the idea of using it for activities like styling your hair, applying makeup, selecting an outfit, or even just to help the room appear a bit larger. These mirrors may also have another fun use that was not intended by their installers. Some people use mirrors for exploring their interest in katoptronophilia. This is a kink or fetish where people enjoy watching themselves or others engage in intimate acts in front of a mirror.

You may be wondering, why would someone want to have sex in front of a mirror? Some people who are interested in or participate in this could be attracted to the exhibitionism aspect of it. This is where someone gains pleasure or becomes aroused when they expose themselves to others sexually, whether this is on their own or with a partner(s). You may think watching yourself masturbate in front of a mirror isn't really exposing yourself. However, it actually lets you experience what it would be like to watch yourself from someone else's viewpoint, which can sometimes fulfill that desire of feeling exposed. The same goes for when you have sex in front of a mirror; it offers everyone a fresh view and an enhanced sense of exposure.

Katoptronophilia can also be seen as a bit voyeuristic. This is just the opposite of exhibitionism where someone becomes aroused by watching others in a sexual way, typically others engaged in sexual acts. When you're having sex in front of a mirror, you get to see the reflections and watch how your body and your partner's move in real-time. It's like a live show with you and your partner(s) as the stars! Some people might even like the idea of being "made" to watch themselves and others in the mirror. Of course, it's all consensual—just a fun role-playing fantasy. Imagine how exciting it might be if you're with your partner(s) and they turn your head to the mirror, telling you to see how amazing you look. Maybe they pull your hair or head back and "make" you watch until they let go. Not only is your partner watching, but you get to watch too. What an incredible feeling.

Some people might enjoy engaging in sexual activities without sight, such as in a dark room or while wearing a blindfold. However, with katoptronophilia, it's quite the opposite. This may appeal to people who are seeking a sense of voyeurism, pleasure from observing others during intimate moments like sex or masturbation. Others may be more interested in the exhibitionism side of it, arousal derived from exposing themselves to others. This kink/fetish isn't for everyone, and that is okay! Everyone is different, they have their own likes and dislikes, especially when it comes to sex. So, find a mirror and see if YOU like what you see!

Sasha Says

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This month’s top question from you!   

Why do people use blindfolds during sex?

Every sexual experience is unique, whether you're with someone new or someone you've been with for a while. Sometimes people decide they want to experiment sexually and try something new. All around the world people choose to experiment with sex every day, and that experimentation could mean many different things. Maybe it's trying a new lube, exploring different sensations like oral sex instead of penetrative sex, exploring new roleplay scenarios, or even spicing things up with a blindfold.

Before introducing a blindfold, like anything new, into your sex life, it's a good idea to talk with your partner(s) about it first. Talk about what makes you curious about trying it and discuss any rules or boundaries you might want to set. Make sure to agree on a safe word or action so everyone feels comfortable. It's all about having a conversation with your partner(s) to set some limits and guidelines before diving into any new sexual adventures.

Now, you might be wondering, why might someone want to use a blindfold? There are all kinds of reasons. Sometimes people use blindfolds to heighten other senses. We all know the five senses, right? Taste, touch, sound, smell, and sight. So, what happens if you take one away during sex? With one sense reduced, such as vision, the other senses become heightened, which can be exciting and nerve-wracking in the best way possible. Each touch feels more sensual and intense. Other people may be interested in wearing a blindfold during sex because it can help relieve the pressure of worrying about where to look. Should you make eye contact? Should you be admiring the other person's body? Do you stare at the wall, ceiling, floor, or mirror? Some people enjoy using blindfolds because it can build up anticipation by not being able to see what happening now or next. There is no "right" or "one" reason someone may decide to try a blindfold.

Using blindfolds can be exciting because they heighten your other senses, take away the pressure of eye contact, or add a fun surprise element. If you're thinking about trying something new in the bedroom, like a blindfold, make sure to talk about boundaries and rules first. Always have a safe word or action ready so you can stop things immediately if needed. When trying anything new it's important to agree on all safety measures before diving into anything new, including using blindfolds. Ready to see, or NOT, what the excitement is all about?

We hope to help you and your partner(s) learn, grow, and enjoy together. Please submit your questions and we would love to be able to help answer them! Check back next month to see if others are wondering the same.

XOXO~Sasha