What's New?
Happy New Year and a big, cheerful hello from your FTLOI family! Get ready for a year bursting with unforgettable memories, delightful chaos, and intriguing mysteries. If your New Year's resolutions include being adventurous and trying new things, we've got just what you need! From lingerie to lube to toys, we have something exciting for everyone here at FTLOI!
If you are wanting to try something new and haven't been able to get the Snail Jovi then have we got the best news for you. The Jovi is now back in stock and eagerly waiting to be sent your way! This c-ring is a remote-controlled vibrator with a distinctive snail-like shape that unrolls and curls back up with the motions of penetration, ensuring constant contact with the clitoris whether the penis is fully inserted or not. The Jovi is the perfect addition to any collection and is guaranteed to kick off the new year with a bang!
Wanting to try something new but aren't sure where to start? We're thrilled to announce yet again, our monthly mystery bag drop! Bursting with surprises, these mystery bags are your ticket to exciting and fun new adventures. Mystery bags might be just what you need to start your journey exploring new things. With a limited quantity available, make sure to grab yours before they're all gone!
Is It True?
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This month’s common myth!  Â
If you need lube then there must be something wrong, right?
People have sex everyday. When it comes to vaginal sex, anal sex, or masturbation it's important to remember that every body is different and every person needs different things for it to be an enjoyable experience. When the body has little to no lubrication, sex can become a painful experience and may even lead to an injury such as micro tears which may later lead to an infection. Using lube is not something that anyone should be ashamed of. In fact, it's designed to help you have the most pleasurable experience you can. Why would you use lube if your body produces natural lubrication? This month we'll dive into why you may want or need to use lube.
Have you ever tried a slip and slide? That plastic sheet that your throw on your lawn and wet down so you can slide swiftly across it, getting soaked as you reach the end? Gliding through the water and getting wet is all a part of the fun. Imagine if the slip and slide was just sprinkled with water "or dry" you wouldn't be able to glide through very easily, if at all. The water on the slip and slide reduces the friction and allows you to pass through easily. The same is true with using lubricant. Lubrication, whether it be naturally occurring or artificial, is meant to reduce friction. You may want or need lubrication when having sex or even when masturbating. There is no shame in using lubricant. Applying lubricant during vaginal and anal sex is often recommended as it enhances pleasure by reducing friction during thrusting/penetrating activities.
People who are vulva owners have the ability to produce their own natural lubrication where as penis owners do not. When a vagina owner becomes aroused or is stimulated, the vagina begins to produce lubrication. Lubrication is produced from the Skene Glands, Bartholin's Glands and vaginal tissue. The amount of lubrication that someone will produce is different for everyone and depends on a few different factors including; age, diet, hormone levels, medication, blood flow, and arousal level. When a vagina owner goes through different life changes, they may begin to experience some vaginal dryness. When there is lack of vaginal lubrication it may become painful to have sex and may cause micro tears which could later lead to discomfort or infection. Adding lubricant will help to make sex safer and more enjoyable for everyone involved.
 While lubricant is commonly used to help lubricate vaginas, it is useful for many other activities and people. Lubricants can be flavored for oral delights, or even cause different sensations like; heating, cooling, and tingling. Using lube will help reduce friction and make for easier insertion, whether it be a toy or another person. Anal sex is a great example of when everyone should be using lubricant. Whether you have a vagina or penis nobody's anus will automatically produce its own lubrication. The skin of the anus is very thin, sensitive, and can be easily torn when friction occurs: hence why using lube is a must! When having anal sex, or even just using anal toys, a good rule to have is if you think you have enough lube, add some more!
Whether on your own or playing with a partner(s), using a lubricant can be a helpful tool. Sex should be an enjoyable and pleasurable experience for everyone involved. There is nothing wrong with wanting or needing to use lubricant. Having a lubricant can make sex and masturbating even more pleasurable than it already is. There are plenty of different lubricants to try, and finding the best one for you is a process of trial and error. Check out our lubricant section here, and find the one that works best for you.
Staff Stars
If you've visited FTLOI in in the last few years you might have met one of our incredible store managers, Jo. She is always organized, dependable, compassionate, and kind-hearted. One of Jo's favorite parts of working at FTLOI is "being able to help such a wide array of different people." She is an outstanding leader and handles numerous responsibilities including; scheduling, managing inventory, assisting customers both in-store and online, among other tasks.
Jo is the kind of person who would give the clothes off her back to someone in need. She consistently shows patience, understanding, and compassion every day. Jo is an incredible person who's kind hearted spirit inspires each of us every day. When she isn't at the store, she often enjoys hula hooping, attending raves/festivals, along with spending quality time with her husband and adorable fur babies. Her warm, caring, and welcoming nature is sure to capture your attention as soon as you meet her and is sure to leave an impression you will never forget. Thank you for being such an incredible addition to our team Jo!
Sasha Says
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This month’s top question from you!  Â
If I use toys too often will I become addicted and no longer desire my partner?
When you begin to explore using toys either on your own or with a partner it is a learning process. Plenty of questions may arise when exploring new activities. Most of these questions will be about personal preference, whereas some of the questions will be about nerves or fears. Do I want something vibrating or non vibrating? How big of a toy do I want? Other questions may be something as simple as being nervous to try
something new or may even be a fear like; What if my partner gets a toy and no longer wants to be with me? Or it may be just the opposite, What if I become addicted to my toy and no longer desire my partner? Let's talk about it.
Being in a relationship is more than just engaging sexually with another person(s). Whether it be that your partner(s) or you that have this fear, it is important to figure out why. Having a fear that you or your partner(s) will become addicted to toys and no longer desire a relationship is valid. Why else would you want a toy if you have a partner?! There are millions of people in the world. It may come as a surprise that plenty of them own sex toys. Toys are designed to help please and are a tool, not a thing to compete with.
Using toys in a relationship could simply be for the fact your partner(s) isn't around at the time, not in the mood, or maybe you'd like to experience a different sensation at the moment. Using a toy together could also be fun either exploring new sensations or fulfilling fantasies. Toys are designed for pleasure and just because someone is using toys solo while in a relationship does not mean there is something wrong with them or that they are unsatisfied in the relationship. In fact, using toys in a relationship may mean just the opposite, and they may be perfectly satisfied and content.
 When you are in a relationship, having open communication with a safe and strong trusted bond will allow you to share the most intimate parts of yourselves. When you think of your partner(s) and your relationship, do you only want to be with them for the sex? Some people may have relationships that are purely based on having sex only, while other relationships may be about connecting on a deep intimate level with another person(s). Relationships include discovering who your partner(s) is(are) and growing with them. This includes making memories with your person(s) and forming bonds in unique ways, learning about their past, what they want for their future. When you are learning who another person is inside and out, forming a connection and bond unique between you, that is the relationship.
There is no need to worry that you or your partner(s) will become addicted to an inanimate object and no longer desire that connection you have with your partner(s). Unless you dress up your toys, talk for hours on end, and go on long walks down by the beach, there is no special connection forming. When you use toys you are gaining sexual gratification, not engaging in another relationship. While using a toy solo or with a partner can become preferred, the most stimulating, or even habitual, it is not addictive.
Whether you want to use toys to fulfill a desire or a fantasy, it is important to remember that toys are a friend and tool, not an enemy and replacement. When you begin to explore toys in a relationship, having an open and honest conversation with your partner(s) is a great first step. Roughly 10% of the population uses sex toys daily with about 65% using them just on occasion. Toys will never be able to replace the unique emotional and human connection you form with another. Just think, would you really ever want it to? If you'd like to start using toys on your own, or if you'd like to start incorporating them with your partner(s), remind yourself and your partner(s) that these toys are purely for sexual gratification. Toys are friends, not enemies.
We hope to help you and your partner(s) learn, grow, and enjoy together. Please submit your questions and we may be able to help answer! Check back next month to see if others are wondering the same.
XOXO~Sasha
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