Listening Lovers July 2025

What's New?

Welcome to another July at For The Love Of It, where our goal is to help sparks fly everyday! Whether it's introducing you to new activities, guiding you in exploring something you've always been curious about, or answering your questions on various topics, we want you to know how much we value each and every one of you. We do our best to have a little bit of everything so everyone can find something they'll enjoy.

665 Bondage Pup Hood

Take a look at one of our newest items: the 665 Bondage Pup Hood. These hoods are perfect whether you're just getting into pup play or already have some experience. They come in three colors—black, purple, and red—have an adjustable head strap for the perfect fit plus a removable muzzle. So, why might you want one of these hoods? Well, pup play can be a fun way to explore power dynamics. You can have an "owner or master" who leads a "pup" around, gives commands, and plays together. Or, as a pup, having someone to guide and correct you if needed can be very liberating. Wearing a pup hood can help with the physical aesthetic as well as helping to put the "pup" into a more submissive head space.

Speaking of submission, we've recently expanded our collection with a few new chastity cages. If you're interested in exploring a more intense power dynamic, chastity might catch your interest. Chastity cages emphasize power and control, affecting both the mind and body. Generally, those with penises wear chastity cages, but there are also chastity belts for those with vulvas. Chastity involves the "dominant" partner controlling when the "submissive" partner can engage in sexual self-touch and orgasms in general. The person in chastity wears a cage or belt that covers their genitals, which their partner locks. The partner keeps the key and decides when to unlock it. Typically, these devices can be worn while allowing normal daily activities, including using the restroom. The person in chastity has an emergency key and there is often a predetermined consequence if they unlock themselves without an emergency. This practice centers on power dynamics, and while it includes a physical item, it is equally about the mental experience.

New Kinks & Fetishes

To submit your questions and thoughts please submit an email to info@ftloi.net 

What’s the most talked-about kink and fetish this month?

What does it mean to have a breeding kink or fetish?

When we talk about changing things up in the bedroom, it might mean trying out a new activity, exploring a new kink or fetish, or maybe even a mix of both. These could be things you've always been into, stuff you've discovered along the way, or something completely new. Everyone's kinks and fetishes are different, and that's part of what makes experiencing them so exciting. Take a breeding kink, for instance. At first, it might seem like it's just about wanting to get pregnant or getting someone else pregnant, right? Well, it could be—let's dive into it.

Creature Cocks Galactic Breeder Ovipositor Silicone Dildo w/Eggs

So, what is a breeding kink?! A breeding kink or fetish involves being aroused by the idea of potentially becoming pregnant or impregnating someone. While it might seem like the goal is to have a child, that's not necessarily the case. Many people who enjoy this kink don't actually want to have children. Often, partners may use birth control to help prevent pregnancy. Some are drawn to the dominant role of "breeding" their partner, while others prefer the submissive role of being "bred." This power dynamic is a big part of the appeal for many who are interested in this kink. The excitement of the breeding kink often stems from the risk of pregnancy itself and the emotions it evokes. Many people enjoy a bit of risk, whether in sexual experiences or everyday adventures. Consider activities like mountain climbing, riding roller coasters, bungee jumping, or skydiving. Not everyone is inclined to try these things, but many are. Just because you might not be interested doesn't mean others won't be!

People often wonder if you have to have a partner to participate and enjoy a breeding kink. The answer is no, you don't need one! Alternatively, have you thought about using toys? If you're intrigued by the idea of being bred but currently don't have a partner, can't engage in unprotected sex, or simply want to try something different, toys can be a fantastic option. For instance, there are toys like squirting dildos that can simulate the sensation of being filled and bred. You can fill them with liquid (typically a synthetic lube or a semen-like substance) and then pump it through the toy into yourself or have a partner do it for you. Another option is ovipositors, which are hollow dildos that deposit synthetic eggs into the vagina. It's important to remember that these eggs are intended solely for vaginal use. If you are using any toy anally, make sure the toy has a flared base to prevent it from getting "lost." Since these eggs don't have a base, retrieving them from the rectum could be difficult and might require a not-so-quick visit to the doctor. Ovipositors are great for many different scenes, especially fantasy ones, like being bred and filled with a dragon's egg, only to "hatch" it later (release the eggs from the vagina). Both types of toys are incredibly enjoyable to use, whether you're solo or with a partner.

Participating in the breeding kink or fetish can be a highly fulfilling experience (pun intended)! This can be explored alone or with a partner. Some of the excitement might come from the idea of potential pregnancy or simply from indulging in a fantasy with toys. Neither is "superior" to the other. It's important to recognize that not everyone interested in this kink is aiming to have children. If this resonates with you, consider taking extra precautions, such as birth control, to reduce risks—unless the element of risk adds to the attraction for you. Each person is unique, as are their preferences. No two individuals have identical kinks or fetishes, but discovering and exploring them together can be a remarkable experience. Remember, whatever your reasons for your preferences, they are valid.

Staff Stars

This month, we're over the moon to spotlight one of our superstar team members. Drumroll, please... it's Felipe! Every day, they are waiting for us in store with a grin so wide it could rival a Cheshire cat, greeting everyone like they're long-lost friends. Felipe is our daily dose of sunshine and hands down one of our top-tier colleagues.

When not dazzling us at work, Felipe unleashes their inner fashion wizard, crafting outfits that are nothing short of runway-ready. This style guru is always rocking a snazzy custom hat and scarf combo that screams 'fashion icon.' Their design flair is just what the doctor ordered for all the shindigs this social butterfly flutters to. After a night of socializing, you might spot Felipe sprawled on the floor, but fear not—they're back on in their place with that signature smile in no time!

Sasha Says

To submit your questions and thoughts please submit an email to info@ftloi.net 

This month’s top question from you!     

How do I know when to get checked for STD's and STI's?

Ever heard the phrase, "Your body is a temple"? It's so true! Our bodies are capable of incredible things, so it's important to take care of them both now and for the future. Taking care of yourself might seem simple—get enough sleep, eat right, exercise regularly, keep your mental health in check, and practice self-care. What about your sexual health? When was the last time you got tested for STDs (sexually transmitted diseases) or STIs (sexually transmitted infections)? How do you know if and when you should get tested?

First off, let's get a handle on what STDs and STIs are. Some can be cured, some can't, but of those most can be kept in check with the right medications and treatments. STI's happen when viruses, bacteria, or parasites enter the body, usually through sexual contact, but may not show any signs or symptoms of being present in the body. Now we say usually because STD's and STI's can be contracted through any exchange of body fluids, whether it's from kissing, vaginal sex, oral sex, or anal sex. So what's an STD then? STDs are basically STIs that have gotten worse and has developed into a disease with symptoms or signs within the body. Most infections don't turn into diseases, but they can if they go untreated.

Wondering when you should get tested for STD's or STI's? A good idea is to get tested for STDs/STIs at least once a year, and more frequently if you feel it's necessary. Some infections may be present but show no symptoms. Keep an eye out for signs like burning or pain when you pee, warts, bumps, blisters, boils, flu-like symptoms, unusual vaginal/penile discharge, or unpleasant smells. If you think you need a test, you can set up an appointment with your doctor or visit a free or low-cost testing facility like Planned Parenthood. STDs and STIs can happen to anyone and are more common than you might think. Whether you're single, have a friends-with-benefits situation, or are in a relationship—monogamous or polyamorous—no one is immune. These things don't pick favorites! When it comes to doing your testing it's always better to be safe than sorry.

Let's look at an example. Joseph has a friend-with-benefits arrangement going on with Sara. They've had this setup for around three months and they're not exclusive, meaning they can see and sleep with other people if they choose to do so. Joseph decides to hook up with an old friend of his named Alyssa. Before meeting up, Joseph and Alyssa discussed their current STD/STI status. Joseph mentions that he got tested before starting things with Sara, and everything was negative. He hasn't been tested since but says he's only been with Sara during that time so he should still be all good to go. Alyssa tells him she got tested about a year ago, and everything was negative too. She also mentions she's had three partners since then but didn't feel the need to get tested again because she never had any symptoms. Both Alyssa and Joseph decide they're comfortable with this and agree to hook up this one time before parting ways. So, even though Joseph and Alyssa only hooked up this once, should they get tested? Should Joseph let Sara know about it before they have sex again, even though Alyssa believes she’s negative, so everything should be fine?

Picture yourself in this situation—would you get tested? This kind of thing happens all the time. We know Joseph was tested a few months ago and got a negative result, but can we be sure Sara has been upfront about whether she's been with someone else? What about if Sara was tested at all before having sex with Joseph? Maybe they were only seeing each other, but who knows for sure? Alyssa's test from a year ago was negative, but she hasn't been tested since, despite having other partners. She didn't feel the need to test because she had no symptoms, but remember, some infections don't show symptoms and still need treatment. Even though it seems like everyone was pretty honest in this scenario, it's possible that not everyone is, or they might not even know they have an infection. Since Alyssa and Joseph hooked up, they should both get tested for STDs or STIs before being with anyone else sexually again, even if Joseph and Sara are still seeing each other.

Getting tested for STDs and STIs might feel a bit awkward and embarrassing, but taking care of your health is nothing to be embarrassed about! In 2018 a clinical study showed that close to one in five Americans had an active STI/STD in their system. That number hasn't changed much, with over 2.4 million people reported to have an STD/STI in the U.S. If you're considering getting tested, just remember it's always better to be safe than sorry. The best outcome is that you're clear, and you can breathe easy knowing you won't pass anything on. But if you do test positive, what's next? First, it's crucial to let your partners know so they can get tested, too. This might seem nerve-wracking, but it's super important. Many testing centers or doctors' offices can even call your partners for you, without revealing your identity. The call might go something like, "Hi, this is Doctor Smith at Testing Facility A. We have a patient who tested positive for an STI, and you've been listed as a recent partner, so we recommend getting tested." They will not tell them who the patient that tested positive is they will only pass on the information that they need to be tested.

Caring for your body involves being mindful of your sexual health. Regular STD and STI testing is essential, as many infections can be asymptomatic. STIs, spread through sexual contact, can develop into STDs if untreated. Testing is recommended at least yearly, or more frequently if needed. Be aware of symptoms like painful urination, unusual discharge, or flu-like symptoms. Testing is important for everyone, regardless of relationship status, due to the prevalence of STDs and STIs. While testing might be uncomfortable, it's crucial for health and safety. If you test positive, inform your partners so they can also get tested. Being proactive about your health is vital, and testing centers can help inform partners discreetly.

We hope to help you and your partner(s) learn, grow, and enjoy intimacy together. Please submit your questions and we would love to be able to help answer them! Check back next month to see if others are wondering the same.

XOXO~Sasha