Listening Lovers June 2025

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June's here, and while we're always proud at FTLOI, we want to make sure to celebrate Pride Month with you all. So many people have fought so hard and we've come a long way in the last few decades. To everyone in the LGBTQ community and our allies who have been in the fight, those that can't be at that the moment, and those who keep at it, we appreciate you, we see you, and we love you. It was only in 1999 that the US first recognized June as Pride Month and it was officially declared LGBT Pride Month in 2009. Later on, in 2021, it was updated to LGBTQ Pride Month. While this may not seem like a big step to all, it truly is. Including the entire community, along with showing support and acceptance to everyone, is a major step because in the end we're all equal, and we're all people trying to live our best and most authentic lives.

This month we'd like to offer you all an extra discount to help you celebrate and be proud. Now through June 15th any online order spending over $150 or more will be able to use code IMPROUD for 15% off! Don't think that's all either because we've definitely got more to go over. From rainbow lingerie pieces, to rainbow pasties, and even a eight inch rainbow dildo! Don't forget to check out our pride section here and find the perfect accessories to help you celebrate this month.

Pride Month Special

Pride month is an awesome time to really celebrate who you are. Sure, people should always be proud, but even in 2025, it’s not always easy or safe to. The LGBTQ+ community has faced a lot of challenges, but that won’t stop them from rising up. Thanks to everyone who’s fought for our rights. Whether you’re part of the LGBTQ+ community or not, we’ve come a long way and we're not stopping now. Riots, protests, and even breaking the law got us started on this journey to equality. One of the more memorable moments in LGBTQ history is what's now known as the "Stonewall Riots." You might’ve heard about it. If not, no worries—we’ll fill you in!

Let's jump back to 1969. Back then, being queer was still considered wrong and illegal in most parts of the United States. Police brutality against the queer community was so common it almost seemed normal. Cops would often raid bars, hotels, and clubs where they thought queer people might be hanging out. During these raids, a female officer might even take people suspected of crossdressing into the restroom to check their physical sex to figure out if they were breaking the law.

Let's zoom in on Greenwich, New York. There's the Stonewall Inn, a bar that was a favorite hangout for the queer community. The people running the Stonewall Inn usually got a heads-up if the police were planning a raid. Typically, those arrested during the raid would be let go pretty quickly, but this time was different. In the early hours of June 28th, 1969, they were taken by surprise when the police began to raid the Stonewall Inn. Those who had proper ID were released back into the crowd, while others were questioned and/or searched. Police began arresting people and brought in vans to take them away.

Soon after the raid began people nearby realized what was happening. A crowd gathered with people looking for their friends, family, or even just those curious about what was going on. The crowd watched a woman from the bar get hit on the head and forced into a police vehicle. She called out to the crowd, asking them to do something. Watching the police be unnecessarily forceful and violent, the crowd started yelling, chanting, and throwing whatever they could—bricks, bottles, trash cans, pennies, you name it. The crowd’s actions ultimately forced the police to barricade themselves inside the bar. Protestors eventually made their way into the bar and things quickly turned even more violent. Even a fire was started. Police reinforcements, including the fire department and tactical forces, were then called in to help. The fire department put out the fire and then helped disperse part of the crowd.

The day after the raid, the bar opened up again. Even more people showed up to support, chanting phrases like "gay power." The police had to deal with a crowd that was bigger than they could usually handle. When they arrived to try to manage and break up the crowd they ended up using teargas and physical force. These measures worked and cleared everyone out. Over the next few days, newspapers wrote about the protests. They used different slurs and made homophobic comments, but that didn't stop people from standing up for injustice. More and more people gathered and protested, especially outside the newspaper offices. Just four days after the raid, on July 2nd, 1969, the police were called again and faced hundreds of protesters. When they arrived the people continued their protest, which later wrapped up sometime before midnight that day.

The Stonewall Riots weren't exactly planned, at least not like the police thought. It was all about people standing up for each other, protesting, and calling out injustice, whether it was seen as "right" or not. This kind of protest is a big reason we're where we are today. While it wasn't the first protest, the Stonewall Riots happened less than 60 years ago and really helped jumpstart the pride movement and queer organizations. On June 28th, 1970, marking the one-year anniversary of the riots, thousands of people came together for the first pride parade, chanting "say it loud, gay is proud." It was an amazing step forward in the fight for the queer community and is remembered by many.

New Kinks & Fetishes

To submit your questions and thoughts please submit an email to info@ftloi.net 

What’s the most talked-about kink and fetish this month?

What is Urophilia?

Exploring new kinks and fetishes can be a fun way to learn more about yourself and get closer to your partner(s). Take urophilia, for example, which is often called piss-play. This kink or fetish is about sexually enjoying urination in some way—whether it's imagining a scene with urine, enjoying the smell or taste, or the warm feel of it on their skin. Some people enjoy holding in their urine or being in control of someone else's. This kink or fetish doesn't mean that someone gets turned on every time they pee, just that in certain situations they find it exciting and erotic.

You might question why anyone would be into this particular activity, but think about how you love your favorite food even if others don’t. People have various reasons for enjoying this activity and all of them are completely valid. To start, some who engage in piss play might be drawn to the "taboo" aspect as these activities are often considered "off limits," providing a feeling of naughtiness and rule-breaking.

Piss play can involve power exchange scenarios where one partner controls when the other is allowed to use the bathroom. This might include a predetermined schedule or requiring permission to go. Some seek the sensation of feeling "dirty" or powerless at times. They might enjoy the feelings of humiliation, degradation, or powerlessness in the moment. Conversely, others might enjoy urinating on someone to feel powerful, in control, and superior in the moment.

Lastly, many practitioners simply enjoy having someone pee on or in them or drinking or bathing in it, sometimes referred to as a "golden shower." Others might be into the idea of being "forced" to drink it, whether it’s their own, their partner’s, or someone else’s. When we say "forced," it’s all about consensual roleplay where one partner takes charge and "forces" the other to join in these activities. You might be curious about where on the body this occurs. It differs—some people might want to cover the entire body with urine, while others might target specific areas. Some even enjoy urinating into someone's mouth or other body parts, or having that done to them. Each person has their own preferences.

Piss-play isn't everyone's cup of pee.. Oops, I mean tea! You might give piss-play a try and find out you love it or decide it’s not your thing. Either way, that's totally fine. Everyone has different interests.. Some people might not even want to think about it, while others can't get it out of their heads. If you're curious and want to give it a shot, make sure you and your partner(s) have a clear discussion about boundaries first. There's no shame in trying something once and deciding it's not for you. It's all about figuring out what you like, and there's no right or wrong way to do that. You're just discovering more about yourself!

Staff Stars

Have you met all of our team yet? We want to give a shoutout to Wendy! She not only rocks her job here at FTLOI but also in life. She's part of our security squad and loves showing off new products you might love. Wendy's a fantastic addition to our team, so be sure to swing by and say hi! With her long cherry red hair and flawless skin, she's easy to spot—if she wants you to find her, that is.

When she's not at FTLOI, Wendy loves going for long walks and observing people and their interactions. Some folks say Wendy has a mysterious and possessive vibe, but really, she's just got an awesome personality. Wendy is always eager to help our customers and if you feel a bit nervous around her, don't worry—she won't bite... yet. Her wild and crazy spirit comes from "devouring the devilish souls" of passersby so make sure you take the long way around her and avoid direct eye contact. That is, unless you want her to devour you...

Sasha Says

To submit your questions and thoughts please submit an email to info@ftloi.net 

This month’s top question from you!     

How often should my partner and I be having sex?

Sex is one of the most simple yet most complex activities that we as humans can engage in together. Whether it’s a spontaneous encounter with someone whose name you don’t even know or a passionate moment with someone you've cherished for a lifetime, the question often arises: how often should you be having sex? This is a question many ponder, and the answer is a bit more simple than you may think.

While some might wish for a universal "sex standard," the reality is that if there was we would know by now. The frequency of sex is as unique as each individual and there’s no “right” answer as to how often you should be having sex. Some studies suggest that sex can boost your health and help melt away stress, but any claim that you must have sex X times in a week, month, or year is just unrealistic.

Sex is meant to be an enthusiastic, delightful and enjoyable experience for everyone involved! If scheduling sex three times a week on Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Sundays gets you excited, go for it! If the idea of meeting a quota doesn’t appeal to you, just skip it. Sex should be something fun, not just another task on your To-Do list.

Deciding how often to have sex is simple—it’s all about what feels right for you and your partner(s). If once a week suits you and your partner(s), fantastic! On the other hand if you want to have it five, six, even ten times a week, that’s wonderful too. If you’re just not in the mood sometimes, that’s perfectly okay, too. It’s all about what works for your unique relationship, and nobody will know that better than those in your relationship.

If you feel that there something’s missing in your sex life, why not start a conversation? Opening up about your desires and needs with your partner is something you should feel comfortable doing. It might be daunting at first, but remember, this is someone you already trust and share your body with. You should feel more open with them than anyone else. Relationships and sex are meant to be an exhilarating experience! While we can’t tell you how often you should or shouldn’t be having sex, we can assure you it’s all about what works for your relationship. It might be frustrating, or embarrassing to bring up such topics, but if you’re unsatisfied, how can your partner know? Relationships aren’t always easy, but communicating with your partner(s) is always the best way to make it easier.

We hope to help you and your partner(s) learn, grow, and enjoy together. Please submit your questions and we would love to be able to help answer them! Check back next month to see if others are wondering the same.

XOXO~Sasha