Listening Lovers May 2025

What's New?

This May, take control of your adventures and try something you've always wanted to! Whether you're on the hunt for massage oil, lube, lingerie, toys, or anything else, we're here and ready to help you find what you need. We keep bringing in new stuff to keep things fresh and help you discover more.

We've finished our spring cleaning and now have loads of items on sale to make room for new finds just for you. If you want to grab something new without breaking the bank, definitely check out our On Sale section. Whether you're into bubble baths, lingerie, or toys, there are tons of awesome choices to explore.

Speaking of exploring, this month we've brought in some new favorites from the Blush Au Naturel line. These products use Sensa Feel dual density technology, giving them an amazingly realistic feel. They feature a suction cup base, making them ideal for hands-free use and harness compatibility. Additionally, these toys are available in a variety of sizes, both in length and girth. For all of you size queens out there that love that extra full feeling check out the Blush Au Naturel 10 inch 2.75 Pounder. This toy measures 10 inches long and 3 inches in diameter, so it's sure to help fill you up!

New Kinks & Fetishes

To submit your questions and thoughts please submit an email to info@ftloi.net 

What’s the most talked-about kink and fetish this month?

What is cuckolding?

Cuckolding has been around for a long time and isn't going away anytime soon.  Cuckolding/cuckqueaning is loosely defined as an activity where one person in a marriage watches the other have sex with someone else. Now, that doesn't necessarily mean you have to be married to someone to enjoy this kink. In a broad stroke we could classify cuckolding as a activity that includes a person in a relationship watching their partner have sex with someone else. Either way, this person that's joining in could be a friend or someone new they've met together. Sometimes, one partner may even find someone for the other to have sex with, provided they get to watch either in person or later via video. The term "cuckold" is used to define a husband who has a unfaithful wife, while cuckquean is just the opposite. Currently, these terms are gender-specific, either male or female. Unfortunately, if you don't identify strictly as male or female, there is no current term to used to define you in the dynamic. Hopefully, a more inclusive term will be developed to include everyone's identity.

Let's look at an example of cuckolding. Meet Sara and Bryan. Sara and Bryan discuss that they'd like to try cuckolding. They've decided that they'd like it to be a mutual friend of theirs that they already trust and decide on Bryan's friend Henry. Bryan later asks his friend Henry if he'd like to come over and have sex with Sara while he watches (along with discussing some of their boundaries). In this situation, Bryan is the "cuckold", or often referred to as "cuck" for short. However, just because he's watching doesn't mean he can't get involved. Maybe he likes to masturbate while watching Sara and Henry, or maybe they've all agreed to have it on video so Bryan can watch it later either with Sara or on his own. This can just as easily go the other way too. Maybe Sara wants to see Bryan have sex with her friend Angela. In that case, Sara would be the "cuckquean." You can also get into cuckolding virtually these days, like having a video call with your partner while you're with someone else or sending them a video afterward. It's about what works for your relationship.

Fun Fact: The word "cuckold" comes from the cuckoo bird, which is known for placing it's eggs in the nests of other birds. 

You might learn about cuckolding and wonder, why would someone want to see their partner have sex with another person? People enjoy cuckolding for different reasons, each totally valid for their situation and participants. Some people are drawn to cuckolding because of compersion, meaning that they experience joy from their partner's pleasure. Other people may simply enjoy being in a different role than they are when having sex. Switching roles and observing someone else with your partner can create a power shift. This power shift may possibly evoke feelings like humiliation or inferiority, and sometimes people want to experience that feeling during sex. Sometimes, the appeal lies in the "taboo" nature of the act, challenging societal norms and "going against the rules."

Consenting adults have the freedom to make their own choices, and establishing boundaries together is big part of it. As long as this is an activity you and your partner(s) wish to explore there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. Talk about boundaries and limits with everyone involved. Is kissing okay? Is it just about sex? What if you decide you'd rather join in than just watch? What if it brings up unexpected feelings? There is no such thing as having too many questions, or having dumb questions. If you engage in anything new you should discuss all boundaries, and then afterwards talk about it. Did you enjoy it? Did you feel good about the activity? How are you feeling mentally? Is there anything you would rather have done differently? Would you want to do it again?  Open and honest communication is essential to make sure everyone enjoys any new activity, including cuckolding.

As with any new activity especially one including multiple partners, there is a risk of unexpected reactions. Maybe you came across cuckolding through porn and thought it looked fun until you were actually in that situation. Perhaps you thought it would be exciting but now feel left out, angry, or upset. Lots of emotions can pop up when trying new things, and your feelings are valid. Make sure that there is an established safe word and/or action that everyone agrees on so if play it needs to stop it's clear to everyone.

Whether you're exploring cuckolding for the first time or it's already familiar territory, it's important to have a discussion with all parties involved beforehand. Establishing boundaries, maintaining open communication, and fostering trust are key elements for ensuring a positive experience for everyone. Additionally, remember to discuss your feelings afterwards as they might catch you off guard. Share your reflections on the experience with your partner(s). The key to enjoyable and positive kink experiences is all about open and honest communication with everyone involved!

Staff Stars

This month we want to give a shout-out to one of our staff members who is always a "rock-solid" worker and has been with us for over a decade, Thor. It's pretty obvious that he is an Aquarius with how "hard-headed" he is. His main gig here at FTLOI is to greet all you amazingly sexy people in the store, where he's always standing at attention. Or maybe he's just trying to get your attention, who knows?

We're super excited to have Thor with us, and it's clear he's just as excited to be here. When he's not busy at FTLOI, you'll likely find him working on his latest craft projects. You might also see his inner theater kid making a dramatic entrance, showing off a range of creative, custom-made outfits. Thor wasn't just any theater kid he was the show coordinator, which makes sense since he's also our event coordinator and often hosts staff socials for our security team. Be sure to look for him and say hi next time you visit us in the store, he sure is ready to see you!

Sasha Says

To submit your questions and thoughts please submit an email to info@ftloi.net 

This month’s top question from you!     

What's the difference between a body topping and a flavored lubricant?

Sex can already be an incredibly fun experience and exploring new activities, or products to use during these fun activities, can add a whole new element—whether it's experimenting with a new position, incorporating a new accessory, inviting a new partner, or something entirely different. Sometimes, new excitement can stem from additions like a cock ring, dildo or vibrator. What if it came from adding a tasty treat to your session? Have you ever considered trying something like a body topping or flavored lube? Body toppings and flavored lubricants are both delicious choices, each offering delightful flavors, yet they serve different purposes. Understanding these differences is important for safety and maximizing yours and your partner(s) pleasure.

Lubricant whether it's flavored or not, is meant to reduce friction during sex. If it's flavored that's just an extra bonus. Proper flavored personal lubricant does not contain sugar, so it's yummy and safe for internal vaginal use as well as oral and anal sex. Using a flavored lube is great when you want something tasty without having to pause for cleanup between different activities, like switching from oral sex to vaginal sex. Since the vagina is sensitive, ingredients like sugar can mess with its pH balance and could possibly lead to infections which nobody wants. These lubes can be a great way to add some extra flavor to your sex life, but so can body toppings.

What are body toppings? As the name suggests, body toppings are products applied to the body. These products are placed on areas such as the genitals or other erogenous zones to be nibbled, sucked, or licked off. Examples of such products include nipple nibblers, emotion lotion, and pens filled with delicious gel or chocolate. While these products are flavorful, they are not intended for use as lubricants but rather as enjoyable treats. Some may provide sensations such as tingling, warming, or cooling, while others simply offer delightful flavors ideal for licking off your partner. Body toppings are suitable for use on external genital areas such as the nipples, penis, labia, or clitoris—just ensure they do not enter the vagina.

Both of these products are bound to add a tasty twist to your partner(s), making them even more tempting than before. Choosing between a body topping or a flavored lubricant can be a fun and yummy choice. Only you know what's best for you and your partner(s), and understanding the differences and limits can help you decide. One's a lubricant with flavor, and the other's just a sweet treat like candy. Now's the time to explore and pick a flavor, so make sure to check out our flavored lubricants and body toppings and find your next delicious delight.

We hope to help you and your partner(s) learn, grow, and enjoy together. Please submit your questions and we would love to be able to help answer them! Check back next month to see if others are wondering the same.

XOXO~Sasha